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Men are “like hummingbirds,” and other advice from Silicon Valley’s leading matchmaker

We’ve all been there: stressing over what to wear on that all-important first date.

So we turned to dating expert Amy Andersen, founder of Linx Dating, who has launched hundreds of relationships and dozens of marriages. Known as the Cupid of Silicon Valley, Amy teaches tech executives, entrepreneurs and investors how to date. We asked her for some dos and don’ts for smart first-date dressing.

“First impressions are lasting ones when it comes to dating,” Amy says. “That doesn’t mean you need to wear designer clothes. It’s about being well groomed: think nice haircut/color and feminine nail polish for ladies; for men, neck hair shaved, clothes pressed.

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According to Amy, men and women are very different when it comes to first-date impressions. “Men are visual creatures. He will know within the first 30-60 seconds if he is interested — purely based on physical attraction.” She recommends women “channel your inner Natalie Portman” — be classic, lady like and stylish.

  • Wear color. Men are like hummingbirds and are attracted to red and jewel tones. Avoid black, Army green and gray.
  • Avoid super-baggy clothing. (Men want to see a woman’s figure!) You don’t need to show a lot of skin, but know what works for your body type.
  • Skip the heels if he’s short. Your towering height could make him feel insecure, so it’s safer to wear flats.

women's optionsClockwise from left: Diane von Furstenberg dress, now $245.25 | Alice + Olivia top, now $116.16 | Isabel Marant flats, now $289 | Tory Burch Reva flats, now $180

The typical Silicon Valley man is a challenge when it comes to dating, says Amy. He often shows up wearing yesterday’s clothing and looking like he just woke up from a nap. Amy counsels male clients to wear clean, pressed clothes. She recommends he invest in:

  • A great pair of dark denim jeans.
  • A good sport coat — something with personality, like Etro.
  • Beautiful shoes, like a pair of leather Ferragamo drivers. Shoes that are scuffed up or outdated could be a reason she eliminates him from the dating game.

men's optionsFrom left: Citizens of Humanity jeans, now $126.63 | BOSS HUGO BOSS sportcoat, now $432.15 | Ferragamo drivers, now $335.99

She encourages both men and women mix up their dating look in the early stages: “If you are uptown with your day-to-day fashion, go for a more edgy downtown look on a date.” For women, she recommends playing with colors, texture and shine to keep him on the edge of his seat and excited to see you. For more about Amy and linxdating, hop over to her site here.

June 17, 2014   No Comments

GIVEAWAY! Win Free Shoes for a Year [Closed]

We’re excited to announce our biggest giveaway ever. One Shop It To Me member will win FREE shoes for a year up to $2,000.

Entering is simple: all you have to do is invite friends to join Shop It To Me. You’ll get one entry for each friend who signs up.

Bonus entry: in addition to inviting friends, you’ll get a bonus entry for downloading the Shop It To Me iPhone app during the week of the promotion.

The contest ends at 11:59pm PDT on Friday June 6, 2014.

Important notes: US residents only, you must be 18+ years old to enter.

See the official rules for more info.

June 2, 2014   No Comments

Bye Bye, Passwords

At Shop It To Me, we think it’s time to say goodbye to passwords.

Why?  First of all, passwords are inconvenient. For security, you need a unique, “hard-to-crack” password for every site you frequent. They’re hard to think up and easy to forget.  (How many times have you resorted to the “forgot password” button?) Sure, password managers can help — unless, of course, you want to login on your mobile app!

What’s more, passwords just aren’t that secure any more. Cyber-attacks are rampant – and it’s not just Heartbleed: there are new revelations almost daily that some popular site has been “compromised.” Last week, it was eBay warning us to change our passwords; next week, who knows?

We think there’s a better way, and we’re excited to announce that our new version of the Shop It To Me mobile app eliminates the need for a password.

That’s right!  You won’t need to set a password at signup. You won’t need to remember or change one. You won’t need to login via Facebook (although you can if you’d like).

Instead, you simply type in your email address and receive a one-time link. When you click the link, it will auto-log you into the app. And you’ll stay logged in until you choose to log out.

We believe our new login is safer, easier and just plain better than passwords. (It’s also more fun!)

So try out our iPhone App and let us know what you think!

bye bye passwords

May 29, 2014   1 Comment

3 Huge Updates to the Shop It To Me iPhone App

At Shop It To Me, we believe that you know what you love, and that our job is to find it for you on sale in your size.  We’re always looking for ways to do that even better, which is why we’ve updated our iPhone app with some new features to make shopping faster, easier and more fun. Here’s what’s new in the latest version:

“Heart” for price drop alerts

Up until now, when you checked your sales on your iPhone, you’ve been able to “heart” items and save them for later. But now when you “heart,” you’ll immediately set yourself up to receive a price drop alert if and when that hearted item gets marked down further. You asked for price drop alerts — we listened!

Tell friends, get rewarded

Shop It To Me has grown to millions of users almost exclusively by word of mouth. We love rewarding you for telling friends about us and we’re making it easier for you to that with our updated app. Now you can invite your friends by email, text, Facebook or Twitter; when 10 of them sign up, you’ll receive a $20 gift card to your favorite retailer—like Nordstrom, Starbucks or Sephora.

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Refine, sort and filter – your way!

We all have a preferred way of shopping, depending on what you’re looking for: some of us are “sort from low-to-high price” people while others are “just show me the shoes”-types. Whatever your strategy, our updated app lets you efficiently shop your sales the way you want to see them—whether that’s by item type, price or brand.


We’re sure these these updates will make the Shop It To Me iPhone app even better. If you have other suggestions, let us hear them! And don’t forget to update your brand and size preferences for spring and summer, so we can make sure we bring you what you love!

May 2, 2014   No Comments

A Professional’s Guide to Shop It To Me

We’re the ladies of House of Marbury and we are honored to be guest blogging here on Shop It To Me, one of our favorite shopping resources as of late.  When we launched House of Marbury nearly a year ago now, our goal was to give lawyers and other professionals a one-stop source for fashion guidance and inspiration.

Here’s our suggested approach to finding the designers and items your professional closet can’t do without:  

1) Consider Your Basics

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1. Theory Cardigan 2. J.Crew Loafers 3. J.Crew Necklace 4. J.Crew Sweater

Just like any shopping adventure, getting clear about what you actually need in your closet at the outset is a smart approach.  With Shop It To Me, we recommend that you include some of your basic, go-to designers and brands so that, no matter what, your feed will be populated with items that you are definitively missing in your closet.

For this purpose, we love:

J. Crew – J. Crew is your one stop shop for business casual clothes, preppy basics, shoes, and fun costume jewelry.

Theory – No one does women’s suits like Theory, and a professional wardrobe is not complete without 2 to 3 Theory suits (try navy, grey, and pinstripe for variety).

Rachel Roy – RR puts a twist on professional basics.  We especially love her jackets and shift/A-line dresses for their young, fresh look and flattering fit.

Kate Spade – This is the perfect finishing brand for a professional woman’s wardrobe.  Find the cutest skirts, dresses, and accessories (including scarves and eyewear) at Kate Spade to add color, pattern, and spunk to your professional wardrobe.

2) Find Standout Items

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1. Rebecca Minkoff Bag 2. Tory Burch Dress 3. Ralph Lauren Gown 4. Ralph Lauren Pants

In addition to the things you need, we tend to peruse our closets every once in a while and take inventory of those items we can’t live without.  Make a mental note of the size, designer, fit, and anything else about the item that makes it your dream piece.  And set your Shop It To Me feed to include those designers (or designers who make similar pieces).  That way, when you’re shopping on Shop It To Me, you’re well tuned in to what actually works for you (and not distracted by items that you like but that you’ve tried again and again and just can’t quite figure out how to wear).

For this purpose, we love:

Ralph Lauren – Ralph Lauren is a classic brand with fabulous basics that any professional closet needs.  We are always on the look out for this season’s staple Ralph Lauren pieces.

Rebecca Minkoff – Rebecca Minkoff makes everything from great work bags to the famous morning after bag to sweet little handbags and clutches that easily transition from day to night.  A few Rebecca Minkoff handbags make a decent start to an extensive purse collection.

Tory Burch – A great Tory skirt, a pair of boots, a blouse – we’ve got those irreplaceable Tory Birch items but we’re always on the lookout for more.  This is one of those brands that will make your wardrobe better, and that you can rely on consistently for great pieces to supplement your wardrobe basics.

3) Find Unique Pieces

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1. Alice + Olivia Dress 2. Anthropologie Necklace 3. Tibi Skirt 4. Anthropologie Tunic

Forgive us as we contradict ourselves for a moment.  While you should know yourself, and know what pieces you are certain to wear, shopping gets fun when you take risks.  As part of your Shop It To Me feed, include a few designers you might not have otherwise considered.  Go with something wild, adventurous, and unique.  Said another way, go with a designer who will add some color and interest to your otherwise professional wardrobe.

For this purpose, we love:

Tibi – Lovely patterns and shapes, Tibi is the perfect way to venture into unique, original looks without overdoing it.

Alice + Olivia – Alice + Olivia have perfected the funky-professional look.  Wide-leg trousers, great fitting sweaters and blazers.  This is not your traditional business/business casual brand, but you can certainly put together a stellar, work-appropriate outfit that’s guaranteed to be more interesting than the other girls’ get ups down the hall.

Anthropologie – We love everything Anthropologie, and their pieces work equally well for that bohemian-chic weekend look as they do for a business casual day at the office.  Pair cozy cardigans with full A-line skirts.  Choose an embroidered dress and a structured blazer.  There is something for everyone, and the way you combine Anthropologie pieces is what makes it your own.

4) Decide When To Splurge

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1. DVF Dress 2. DVF Dress 3. DVF Clutch 4. Derek Lam Skirt

As much as we love to save, we recognize that from time to time certain items are well-worth the splurge.  (In fact, we’ve devoted an entire page of House of Marbury to this concept.)  As you browse your Shop It To Me feed, you are inevitably going to come across items that are technically on sale, but not necessarily part of your contemplated budget.  If you’re tempted, but not certain you’re ready to pull the trigger, mark the item as a favorite and hold off for a few days.  There is a chance the item may no longer be available (that’s our “it wasn’t meant to be,” Zen approach to shopping) or, preferably, it has been marked down even more, which is great!

 The splurge-worthy brands we love include:  

Stella McCartney – Almost everything Stella is amazing, but her blouses in particular are a fabulous addition to any wardrobe- investment pieces you can showcase for years.

Victoria Beckham – VB is not only an incredible style icon, her clothes are gorgeous.  Every piece has so much subtle detail – they are edgy, unique, and striking, while simplistic at the same time.  The off-beat hemlines and funky jackets can be worn in business and social settings.

DVF – At House of Marbury, we are dedicated DVF fans.  No professional closet is complete without one of her signature wrap dresses, and DVF is making amazing work bags at the moment, too.

Burberry – A great Burberry bag, scarf, trench, watch or dress is irreplaceable.  While you don’t need a closet-full of Burberry, one or two nice pieces are guaranteed to fit like a glove and enhance any outfit.

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Desiree and Kate run the popular blog House of Marbury, a daily fashion and style guide for professional women.  Click here for more from House of Marbury!

April 16, 2014   No Comments

Baubles for Spring!

Accessory lovers everywhere, rejoice! This spring, the runways are bursting with bright pops of colors seen hanging from ears, necks and wrists. We’re talking studs, collar necklaces, florals, insect & reptiles – you name it. Once again, we’ve done the dirty work for you so you can try out these trends for yourself. Get colorful and crystalized in this week’s roundup of the best jewelry brands to buy. Pay close attention—we guarantee these will end up on your must-have list this season.

To edit your Shop It To Me brand preferences, visit and select “Brands” or just click here. Below are the best bauble brands we suggest to keep on your radar. And don’t forget, you’ll see them as soon as they go on sale!



Here is a little sneak preview of what you can expect to find:


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1. Lulu Frost Earrings now $97.50 (50% off)
2. Dannijo Cuff now $346.99 (30% off)
3. Dara Ettinger Necklace now $162.75 (65% off)
4. Kenneth Jay Lane Necklace now $175 (30% off)
5. Chan Luu Bracelet now $24.99 (50% off)
6. Giles & Brother Ring now $27.99 (60% off)

April 14, 2014   No Comments

Fashion Expert Rachel Zalis’ Fave Looks for Rocking your Coachella Style

Coachella kicks off on April 11, and if you’re lucky enough to be heading to this year’s music and arts festival, you’ll want to watch style expert Rachel Zalis’ picks for that laid-back desert look. She shared them during a fashion show on E! News Daily, including a few sweet pieces she found through Shop It To Me.

To edit your Shop It To Me brand preferences, visit and select “Brands” or just click here. Below are the brands we suggest to update the one staple in everyone’s wardrobe. And don’t forget, you’ll see them as soon as they go on sale!


Haute Hippie Dress $163
Straw Hat $20.99
Free People Cuff $19.95
Dolce Vita Sandals $38.49
Dolce Vita Booties $119
Kelsi Dagger Bag $76.99
Rory Beca Romper $136


April 7, 2014   No Comments

Spring Intimates and Sleepwear: Best Brands to Buy


The upcoming warmer months call for an important wardrobe refresh of lingerie and sleepwear. It’s time to update your bedroom look with new colors, prints and patterns. We surprised ourselves when we discovered that there are dozens of great brands that can ensure your undergarments and sleepwear are up to date and in style. We did all the hard work for you and rounded up all the best intimates and sleepwear brands that you should know about. It’s going to make you want to rethink your go-to brand or that old t-shirt and shorts you’re still sleeping in.

To edit your Shop It To Me brand preferences, visit and select “Brands” or just click here. Below are the best intimate and sleepwear brands we suggest to keep on your radar. And don’t forget, you’ll see them as soon as they go on sale!

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Here is a little preview of what you will see:

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1. J.Crew Pajama Set now $59.50 (25% off)
2. Eberjey Robe now $84.80 (20% off)
3. Hanky Panky Thongs now $15 (20% off)
4. Elle Macpherson Bra now $39 (40% off)
5. Cosabella Underwear now $23 (30% off)
6. PJ Salvage Pajama Pants now $38.40 (20% off)

April 4, 2014   No Comments

GIVEAWAY! Win a $1,000 Nordstrom Shopping Spree [Closed]

Win a $1,000 Nordstrom Shopping Spree

Spring shopping just got way more fun. We’re giving one lucky Shop It To Me member a $1,000 Nordstrom shopping spree!

To enter: all you have to do is  invite friends to join Shop It To Me. You’ll get one entry for each friend who signs up.

The contest ends at 11:59 PST on Friday, April 4, 2014.

Important notes: US residents only, must be 18+ years old to enter.

See the official rules.

March 31, 2014   No Comments

The Best Denim Brands To Buy This Spring

Everyone knows that the jeans you’re wearing can make or break a look. And with the warmer months approaching, i
t’s time to swap your winter denim for fresh new styles. We’re giving you a preview of spring’s chicest jeans. In this roundup of the best denim to try, you’ll find color, rips and patterns – a denim style for everyone!  

To edit your Shop It To Me brand preferences, visit and select “Brands” or just click here. Below are the brands we suggest to update the one staple in everyone’s wardrobe. And don’t forget, you’ll see them as soon as they go on sale!


Here is a little preview of what you can find:

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1. Rag & Bone Denim now $96.80 (60% off)
2. DL1961 Flares now $106.80 (40% off)
3. J Brand Coated Denim $130 (40% off)
4. AG Jeans now $84 (50% off)
5. Current/Elliott Denim Shorts now $75 (58% off)
6. Madewell Denim Shorts now $35 (40% off)

March 28, 2014   No Comments